Okay, so, my boyfriend that is in Iraq right now and he is close to the end of his tour, so i'm kind of anxious when unexpected things happen because he is sooo close to being out of there (less than 90 days).

He said that he would talk to me today. He was supposed to get his personal net access subscription renewed today so we could see each other via webcam again, but he hasn't even logged on using the govs or personal net. I know it sounds like i'm overreacting (an i probably am), but he tells me when he won't be online and when he comes back from missions he always at least lets me know that he is okay so I don't worry. The last couple times it was a blackout, but I really don't feel like that is the case this time. It's just a feeling. I know that I am probably making a fuss over nothing, but is there any way for me to find out if he is okay? I haven't met his family yet. I have a way to contact them, but I don't want to put them in a frenzy by telling them i'm worried if he is okay or not. Could I contact Red Cross? My father is over there as a contractor and I was told I could get in touch with him via Red Cross, but I would be next of kin, so I don't know if I would have to be next of kin to find anything out about Jason. He is in Infantry, so I don't know if he was on QRF or not. I could go on rambling forever, but I'll stop because this is getting rather lengthy.

No, you shouldn't (and probably can't) go through the Red Cross as a girlfriend.

It sounds like something you don't want to do, but if something did happen to him-- either injured or otherwise, the first people notified would be his family.

And I wouldn't be too worried yet. Things happen, communications equipment fails (and something could have failed and prevented him from talking with you anywhere from here to Iraq).

And...shit happens. I remember a period where I just got "going" and wanted to complete a mission, which led to another mission, which led to another, and pretty soon, when I finally stopped long enough to sit and think about it, I'd been going for over 28 hours straight.

Maybe he got caught up in something important. A friend of mine didn't come back on his scheduled flight from Iraq. He disappeared for a couple weeks. Not even his wife knew where he was.

Seems he got caught up in this little raid on a farmhouse outside of Tikrit.....
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,105706,00.html

So, no water works, OK? And the only way you might reassure yourself (because, I know no matter what I say, you're still thinking the worst)-- call his folks.

agree with what patoloco wrote.

In this day and age where instant communications is the norm for just about everyone, folks need to remember that those guy's are in a remote third world nation where the large majority of the infrastructure doesn't exist anymore. When I was there, we only had 3 phones available for the entire base camp, and if you wanted or needed to call home, the lines were a hundred deep most days.


Just relax and take things one day at a time. He'll be in touch as soon as he is able.

I feel ur pain but at the same time you won't be able to monitor what he is doing to closely. Should something go wrong (knock on wood) you won't be notified very quickly. It could be days or weeks before u hear anything.