nld220...let us know how it goes. Post us a note and include any details which might perk up lover's memories on a long cold winter's spell...or on a moonless night with tropical breezes swaying the palm leaves and the stars shining bright enough to cast shadows on the tidal swells and warm sandy beaches as the surf pounds against the shore like young hearts held tight enough to feel as one from two enraptured souls.

I will definatly keep you posted but nothing to report as far as keeping warm on a cold winters night ...he is in Iraq...nothing to keep my warm at the moment either...lol...

But the plans are being changed daily as far as what were gonna do...we are still planing on getting married when he comes back, but now I may be moving near base with him...he is based in a different state and I have joint custody of my other two kids so there will be lots of adjustments to be made but looks like its very do~able...AND he is gonna be searching ACAP to see what he can come up with and its very possible he would resign for yet another term...this would be the 3rd time, but this time instead of being combat/infantry, he will be changing his MOS... I told him what ever makes him happy I just don't know what I am getting into...Anybody have any words of wisdom for this soon to be armywife...whats it like? What should I expect? I have been an army g/f for a while but thats different, I live here and he lives there...

Well, I sure don't have a clue how to answer what its gonna be like being an Army wife!

I will admit that I flat out still don't understand women even though I've got some years being married under my belt.

My wife was an army wife and she tole me to tell you hurry up and wait, have faith in god, keep on trucking, pray alot.

Well~ I don't think you have to understand woman persay, I think that you just have to be patient and love your spouse and ALWAYS talk it out...


Tell your wives thank you, and god bless them..I know it takes great patience to be a military wife, just to get thru a deployment alone...I really appreciate the advice...I have great faith in God and pray everyday that he (and everyone else over there) comes home safe, its the only thing that gets me thru the day.

now if I could just keep her from hiding my bottle of scotch!

See mine will never have that problem..I wouldn't hide it...I would drink the hell out of it tho....at least I will here in a few months...lol

nld220 you've landed in a forum with (mostly)men, but it would be better if a woman responded to your thoughts. Anyway, I am an old guy who has been washed with all waters. Some people claim that I have a degree of wisdom. Therefore, I say that life is longer than most of us think, but the love and sex portion of life is very short. After that is over (some say when the fire is out) togetherness is dependent on happiness and cameraderie. This means that a couple gets along and supports each other because both of them like to be together and like (not love) each other to the very end.... If you feel that you and he can be that way together, then all other probelms are insignificant and you two will become an old couple. If not, then quit and live with the consequences.

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Originally posted by nld220:
My boyfriend just recently came home on his leave from Iraq. We haven't been dating very long but while he was here I got pregnant. He is very excited but I don't know what I should do, I am keeping the baby no question but I am new to the whole military lifestyle. I told him marriage was out of the question but now I don't know. He is enlisted for at least another year, and I have children from a previous marriage. Any advice or suggestions would be helpful

That is a tough thing to feel... I know. My brother got a woman he was dating pregnant. And so I have an opinion on this. (1) Make sure that he helps you and takes some responsibility... of course it soounds like he will. (2) I think if you like the guy and he likes /loves you then you should do a relationship with him. See where it goes and support the baby together. I would not marry just because you are pregnant, but I would continue dating... That is my opinion. Be good to yourself, ...to him and let him be good to you and the baby.

...just my take on it.