I need some advice. Me and my wife split back in august, in September I started dating a woman who was also split from her husband neither of us are legally separated or divorced yet but both of us are living in separate house holds from our spouses and each other. Could I face any legal problems from the navy for dating a woman who is still legally married?

I'd ask a lawyer and not rely on any "sea lawyers" on the internet. Ask one that is in your state (or whatever state the potential adultery may have taken place). That may make a difference.

without being facetious and saying 'if you have to ask it probably is. '...I'd check out a lawyer ' toot sweet'.. as the missus is still the beneficiary of your benefits and insurance and such, all legal and proper, and if so inclined or induced by her current squeeze could put some nasty moves on you, as can dismissed spouse of your current sweetheart making things a bit dicey civil court-wise...

best get to filing paperwork soonest [ sep agreements, etc.. etc..] and changing over pay/benefits disbursements or you'll be in a world of hurt and living in a dumpster fro Christmas..

all that ,of course , has nothing to do with how the military might 'view the living arangements' as being detrimental to good conduct. etc. etc..

good luck with your affair of the heart, just wished you had engaged brain a bit more...

Who besides us knows about this?

Does your wife know?

If she does, never, ever sleep with her again. Yer liable to wake up the next morning with the head of yer dic superglued to arsehole!

well thank you all for your advice. my relationship is on hold has been for a month due to the leagallities of the situation. i am useing my head a bit. there is a lot more to the story sorry i could not fill it all in but bottom line is i get frustrated with the fact that 2 adults can not choose to be with each other, i mean we met after the fact. it just frusterates me i am doing everything the required of me and more i am seperating from my wife not my responsibilities. thank you again if you have any other advice i am open i am trying to do this right so please don't judge.

Welcome to the united states military, they get to make up the rules as they go along no one votes on it and there is no representation to speak of. Rules are made by a dictator (general) or an oligarc (of generals/colnels etc). The civilian leadership dictates what the military does through civilian representation but only at the highest levels, civilian leadership rarely block or implement policies in favor of the individual service members. Get used to this or start working on getting out.

Oh no, not another blip on my message screen!..

must be the emperor of the nutfarm wading in with another pithy observation about how the military ruins lives and corrupts morals across the land, once more showing us all that the Taliban are enlightened in comparison.

am I right?

tell me I'm right and I don't have to " un-ignore " the post just to read the ame old drivel..

Semper...no prejudging going on here bud! I've seen this happen more often than one would think. The only real advice I can present is for you to file the papers and get the process started. Once its underway, don't leave yourself open to anything that will or would cloud any judgement against you. Get it done and behind you before you make other commitments. That advice goes for your new squeeze too. Trust me, while what you both are going through is very hard all the way around, you will both be better off in the long run.

My wife and I before we were married, were in the same situation. I bought a do it yourself divorce kit, and made a copy, we both filed same day, and we were both divorced the same day by the same judge. My divorce was not contested, hers was. He was a Warrent Officer that I got into an altercation with one night in a bar. He threatened me with assault on an officer, but I had way too many witnesses on my side in that he swung on me first and thats what the police report stated. That was one fight I actually enjoyed. He arrived in court for his divorce hearing and the fight was brought up in her divorce, but by that time, the judge had already divorced my ex an me. Him bringing this fight up during his divorce hearing apparently did nothing to endear him to the judge. My wife presented the judge with my copy of the police report. We lucked out as it could have gone badly with a more conventional judge.

My wife an I are still married, as I honestly couldn't deal with one more woman at the same time nor do I have any desire too. That's the one reason I made the superglue comment, my wife without a doubt do just that!