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Sean

Sounds like you are between a rock and a hard place with your command. My only advice on how you can satisfy both requirements for your presence is to get a family member to stay with your wife, even if you have to fly them in. Keep your lines of communication open with your command. This is critical so that you don't keep getting written up. Don't miss your commitments, especially if they allow you to make a simple phone call to account for your whereabouts. Talk to them and work with them to satisfy thier requests/orders.

Im in the AF so this might not apply to you, but go to the IG. They live for this kind of stuff. You would have to tell your chain of command before you go. They wont like it, but its better than getting a dishonerable or something along those lines.

Yes, they can UCMJ you. They can do anything they want - "your ass is theirs" according to the old adage. You are being hassled because you didn't obey their orders, which is a very important thing in the military. You must find a way to take care of your wife within the parameters of whatever the military dishes out. I suggest you try your base family assistance office to help with your wife.

I have to agree with TOW GUNNER on this, you were ordered to do certain things and you did not comply with them, now you are truly between a very large rock and the hardest place there is. Yes you can go to the IG but IMHO they will tell you the same thing. I doubt that there is any real help with the IG, let the paper work go it's course and you will be free of the military if that is what you want. Consider this, what good will you be to your family sitting in pre-trail confinement for doing what you want and not what your chain of command tells you to do?

This sounds like hindsight...and after the fact...
The minute that your family physican issued his orders concerning your wife's medical condition, and with your current military obligations, you should have immediately contacted your relatives and made some arrangements; in addition to contacting appropriate medico/in-home nursing services.

As it has been brought out here...it's been too late to really handle the situation at the point of saving your remaining time in the military.

I personally know a young couple that have paid the price for virtually the same problems...and their failure to address the problem at its inception...and avoid further hardships that they are now experiencing.

Highly advise you to immediately contact trusted relatives and Social Service Agencies to get the assistence available.
Getting 'Chaptered' out will not avail you to many benefits...bottomline.

Go seek legal aid advice... i've seen similar situations, it's a safe and logical thing to do

If you have no family members capable or able of taking care of your wife, have them send notarized letters stating this fact. Get notarized letters stating your wifes' condition and requirements from her medical personnel. Maintain her medical records. Contact your chaplain and request his assistance, along with the AG and IG as mentioned above. Keep a journal of everything you are doing to remedy this situation and note your commands response to it. Keep in mind, the IG and AG work for the GO in your command. In other words, they will seem to be doing things in your favor, but this may not be the case. As a last resort, and only as a last resort, you could cantact your congressman. A congressional will p*ssoff everyone in your command, but they can't punish you for it, and he/she is basically in your informal coc. They don't want you to know this. If you do this, be prepared to meet the wrath of God. If time is of the essence, contact your congressman quickly. It would be in your best interest to utilize military channels first, but they may have a tendency to be rather slow.